Sep 25

Assertiveness Training

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I am a highly agreeable person and I realize that my struggle to assert myself effectively has been to my detriment. I listened to your recent episode where you talked about how we live in a competitive world and must keep our cards close to the vest. I want to execute this advice in my life but have a hard time visualizing what that would look like for me. How can a passive individual start to make the transition into becoming an assertive competitor?

Try setting a few goals. Try and do the project status timeline to help focus your direction. Here's the link:




Commit to Change. Think About Your Goals. Why do you want to achieve your goals? Are you making a change because its assigned by authority? Are you making a change because somebody else wants you to? Intellectually, do you know you are ready for a change? Are you mentally and emotionally ready for change?


Let me know how that works for you.

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