Sep 26

Tired and retired


I have many of your books and have worked out so many of your forms thank you. Unfortunately, I'm 71 and I feel my life is over. The only thing I've ever wanted I've been wanting for 48 years and it has eluded me. I was a widow at 23 and all I've ever wanted was to be a "normal" couple. Part of a committed relationship. Obviously what I'm doing is not what I should be doing...I can't even think of something else that I want. I live in a retirement gated community in an incredibly beautiful spot on a lake in British Columbia and I am reasonably happy - I mean I'm not particularily sad. But I feel like I'm just going to walk my dog until I die. How do I find something I want other than what I want?

Sep 29

Hey Just a question for you....Does the retirement community have any activities you are interested in? It might be a good place to find a friend. Best of Luck

Sep 29

Thanks, I play pickleball, do yoga, walk my dog all with people here but they are all married. Definitely part of the problem as I live 30 minutes away from a small town on a road with free range cattle so I don't drive at night.

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