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Malignant Narcissist + Communal Narcissist: Toxic Personalities In The Real World (Part 4)


In part 4 of the "Toxic Personalities in the Real World” for the second week, Dr. Phil is examining traits particular to the malignant narcissist, who he says “is the most dangerous narcissist of all!” Learn why it’s vital to get away from a malignant narcissist just as quickly as you can safely do so. And, find out the one big characteristic that Dr. Phil says differentiates the narcissist and the malignant narcissist from the psychopath. Plus, what is a communal narcissist, and why does Dr. Phil say they may be the least dangerous of all?


“If you ever start defending yourself with a narcissist, you will never ever stop. They simply can't be confronted. That's why you can't win an argument with them. They are relentless. They will argue until the end of the earth.”

This series addresses Narcissistic Personality Disorder; how to recognize it, establish boundaries, and how to coexist with those in your life who may have it with tools and guidelines that can help minimize damage to oneself and loved ones.


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Psychopath vs Malignant Narcissist


Communal Narcissists

Communal narcissists are the ones that will throw a ten thousand dollar gala to raise a hundred dollars. They do this because they want their picture in the paper. They want to talk about all of their "do-gooding". They want to wear that on their sleeve and beat the drum and beat you over the head with it to show how much better they are than you. They want their picture in the paper holding that puppy, at the hospital with the nurses, planting trees in the park. Communal narcissists want to have credit for every charitable thing you can possibly imagine.



Malignant narcissists can be highly manipulative, and they don't care who they hurt as long as they get their own way.


Other signs of malignant narcissism include:


  • Seeing the world in black-and-white terms, including seeing others as either friend or foe

  • Seeking to win at all costs and generally leaving a great amount of pain, frustration, and even heartache in their wake

  • Not caring about the pain they cause others—or may even enjoy it and experience it as empowering

  • Doing what it takes to prevent themselves from loss, inconvenience, or failing to get what they want in any situation

Does Social Media Contribute To Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Young Adults

  • Research shows that today’s young adults are more narcissistic than ever before.

  • More than 10 percent of people in their 20s are believed to suffer from subclinical narcissism, according to Psychology Today.

  • Social media is contributing to the problem.

  • A study published in the Journal of Personality found that, between 1982 and 2006, college students’ NPI scores significantly increased by about two narcissistic answers.

  • “Receiving a “like” on social media produces a physiological high by triggering our reward cycle. This good feeling is due to a dopamine rush in the reward center of the brain.”

  • A follow-up study “Is “Generation Me” Really More Narcissistic Than Previous Generations?” found further increases in narcissism in young adults through 2008.

  • Two reasons for this increase:

    • A greater focus in recent years on building self-esteem in young people;

    • The internet and social media, which encourage young people to focus obsessively on themselves and their public image.

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Narcissistic personality disorder: a pattern of need for admiration and lack of empathy for others. A person with narcissistic personality disorder may have a grandiose sense of self-importance, a sense of entitlement, take advantage of others or lack empathy.


There are no medications specifically to treat personality disorders. However, medication, such as antidepressants, anti-anxiety medication or mood stabilizing medication, may be helpful in treating some symptoms. More severe or long lasting symptoms may require a team approach involving a primary care doctor, a psychiatrist, a psychologist, social worker and family members.

In addition to actively participating in a treatment plan, some self-care and coping strategies can be helpful for people with personality disorders.

  • Learn about the condition. Knowledge and understanding can help empower and motivate.

  • Get active. Physical activity and exercise can help manage many symptoms, such as depression, stress and anxiety.

  • Avoid drugs and alcohol. Alcohol and illegal drugs can worsen symptoms or interact with medications.

  • Get routine medical care. Don’t neglect checkups or regular care from your family doctor.

  • Join a support group of others with personality disorders.

  • Write in a journal to express your emotions.

  • Try relaxation and stress management techniques such as yoga and meditation.

  • Stay connected with family and friends; avoid becoming isolated.

Source: Adapted from Mayo Clinic, Personality Disorders

Family members can be important in an individual’s recovery and can work with the individual’s health care provider on the most effective ways to help and support. But having a family member with a personality disorder can also be distressing and stressful. Family members may benefit from talking with a mental health provider who can provide help coping with difficulties.

References

  1. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). American Psychiatric Association. (2013).

  2. Lenzenweger MF, Lane MC, Loranger AW, Kessler RC. 2007. DSM-IV personality disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication. Biological Psychiatry, 62(6), 553-564. https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/personality-disorders/what-are-personality-disorders




Books

You are not alone!


Are YOU Abused? Stalked? Harassed? Victimized? Confused and Frightened? Were you brought up by a Narcissistic or Psychopathic Parent? Married to a Narcissist or a Psychopath - or Divorcing One? Afraid your children will turn out to be narcissists or psychopaths? Want to cope with this pernicious, baffling condition?


OR: Are You a Narcissist or a Psychopath - or suspect that You may be one ...


This book will teach you how to Cope, Survive, and Protect Your Loved Ones!


"Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" is based on correspondence since 1996 with hundreds of people diagnosed with Narcissistic and Antisocial Personality Disorders (narcissists and psychopaths) and with thousands of their suffering family members, friends, therapists, and colleagues.


The first ever book about narcissistic abuse, Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited offers a detailed, first hand account of what it is like to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It contains new insights and an organized methodological framework. The first part of the book comprises more than 100 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) regarding relationships with abusive narcissists and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder.


What is a personality disorder? When the personality is rigid to the point of being unable to change in reaction to changing circumstances - we say that it is disordered. Such a person takes behavioral, emotional, and cognitive cues exclusively from others. His inner world is, so to speak, vacated. His True Self is dilapidated and dysfunctional. Instead he has a tyrannical and delusional False Self. Such a person is incapable of loving and of living. He cannot love others because he cannot love himself. He loves his reflection, his surrogate self. And he is incapable of living because life is a struggle towards, a striving, a drive at something. In other words: life is change. He who cannot change cannot live.


The narcissist is an actor in a monodrama, yet forced to remain behind the scenes. The scenes take center stage, instead. The Narcissist does not cater at all to his own needs. Contrary to his reputation, the Narcissist does not "love" himself in any true sense of the word.


He feeds off other people, who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest - in a word, to assure him that he exists. Otherwise, the narcissist feels, they have no right to tax his time, energy, or emotions.


The posting of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Re-Visited on the Web has elicited a flood of excited, sad and heart rending responses, mostly from victims of Narcissists but also from people suffering from NPD. This is a true picture of the resulting correspondence with them.


This book is not intended to please or to entertain. NPD is a pernicious, vile and tortuous disease, which affects not only the Narcissist. It infects and forever changes people who are in daily contact with the Narcissist. In other words: it is contagious. It is my contention that Narcissism is the mental epidemic of the twentieth century, a plague to be fought by all means.


This tome is my contribution to minimizing the damages of this disorder.


This book explores the damaging effects of personality disorders in corporate leaders, particularly in regard to organizational variables including employee productivity, motivation, well-being, retention, and ultimately, the organization’s bottom line. While helping employees recognize and understand the overt and covert characteristics of malignant narcissism, Narcissism at Work offers solutions and coping strategies vital for employees, industrial psychologists, human resource professionals, and organizational leaders in order to optimize business functions and increase employee well-being.



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Monica K Martin
Monica K Martin
Jun 03, 2022

Can you please do a video for children who grew up with nar parents and coping mechanisms during and after the bond or relationship has been severed

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Heather Rush
Heather Rush
Dec 03, 2021

I spent 12 years with who I believe would be considered a narcissist. You touched on every single thing I experienced while I was with him. I still suffer from the effects of that relationship and I wonder if this is ever something that I can heal from? I feel that I still live in the shadow of that relationship and I bring those scars into my current relationship. How do you heal from being in a relationship like that and how do you even co-parent with someone who is a narcissist? Is there a hereditary component? I have noticed my younger son is very much like his father and he really wasn't around to raise him as he lef…

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Oh my gosh! Absolutely malignant! I lived with that for 10 years then moved into my own apartment, still allowing Him to txt me. One day I realized the game was still playing and I was still stuck, so I just quit talking and blocked all contact. That was 4 - FOUR years ago, and I am still in counseling, working on becoming my own person. I even left the state to start over in a safe place. I would encourage any and every one involved to run! Just get away from the toxic influence of such people. No one needs to help another at the expense of their own mental and physical health.

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Seana Mohr
Seana Mohr
Nov 17, 2021

Thank you, Dr. Phil for this series on toxic personalities. My same sex parent is definitely a narcissist and I have struggled much of my life because of this. I have recently set a "no contact" boundary because I was continuing to be abused when we were together. I would very much like to hear more on your thoughts and ideas about narcissistic parentification and how to overcome the loss of self identity when it is specifically a parent who is the toxic personality. I look forward to your upcoming talks on borderline as well (she can also be very histrionic, however, I wonder if this is just her being covert). 🤪 I hope that you do receive this message…

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