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What Happens When Unhealthy Boys Grow To Be Unhealthy Men – And How To Change It

In this moving and enlightening episode of the Phil in the Blanks podcast, Dr. Phil speaks with Dr. Warren Farrell about “The Boy Crisis.” They discuss how boys are socialized into unhealthy relationships with themselves and the world, and the horrible price society pays when unhealthy boys grow up into unhealthy men, including failed relationships, lost contributions, violence and crime, and breakdowns in physical and mental health. Dr. Farrell lays out a bold path forward that keeps the best aspects of being male and adds an empowering new social and emotional landscape.


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The Boy Crisis is also the place to discover how a fully involved dad develops a “dad brain” as he activates a nest of neurons that are otherwise dormant.

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Dr. Warren Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in over 50 countries, and in 19 languages. They include The New York Times best-seller, Why Men Are the Way They Are, plus the international best-seller, The Myth of Male Power. His most recent is The Boy Crisis (2018, co-authored with John Gray). The Boy Crisis was chosen as a finalist for the Foreword Indies award (the independent publishers’ award).

Dr. Farrell has been a pioneer in both the women’s movement (elected three times to the Board of N.O.W. in NYC) and is called by GQ Magazine “The Martin Luther King of the men’s movement.” He conducts couples’ communication workshops nationwide. He has appeared on over 1000 TV shows and been interviewed by Oprah, Barbara Walters, Peter Jennings, Katie Couric, Larry King, Tucker Carlson, Regis Philbin and Charlie Rose. He has frequently written for and been featured in The New York Times and publications worldwide. Dr. Farrell has two daughters, lives with his wife in Mill Valley, California.


It’s a crisis of education. Worldwide, boys are 50 percent less likely than girls to meet basic proficiency in reading, math, and science.

It’s a crisis of mental health. ADHD is on the rise. And as boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women.

It’s a crisis of fathering. Boys are growing up with less-involved fathers and are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison.

It’s a crisis of purpose. Boys’ old sense of purpose—being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner—is fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a “purpose void,” feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification.

So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policymakers can do to help our sons become happier, healthier men and fathers and leaders worthy of our respect.


  • Men learn early on that in order to be a man, they must repress their feelings, not express their feelings – that is how toxic masculinity is born.

  • Toxic masculinity doesn’t come from male privilege, it comes from them being viewed as disposable.

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25 oct 2021

What if their father is a narcissist, and he only cares about his wants and needs, and the mother must step in and be both mother and father role models , even when their father comes home every night. They see their father treat their mother badly , he is disrespectful to her, demeaning to her , he is selfish, self centred , his children are a inconvenience to him, he is a lier, a cheater, but he thinks he is the best husband/ father there is, because in public he is , ppl only see what he wants them to see, so the mother tries her best to treat her kids and show her kids compassion, empathy, that it…

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Anna Favorskaya
Anna Favorskaya
09 dic 2022
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Hi. Good post. Absolutely agree with the text and everything in it. Your point about narcissism was especially poignant. I believe that success has many components and first and foremost is self-confidence. If you weren't given this as a child, I recommend not procrastinating and working on yourself. I went to a psychologist and my life has noticeably improved. Now there is less doubt in decision making, more motivation to learn new things and always hope for a good tomorrow.

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